Recently I have been under some ridicule because I am striving to reframe from having sex until a full year has passed. This will end around my 22nd birthday on May 7th. I didn't just swear off sex for an entire year. After 6 months passed, I said I want to try this since I am already half way there. I am not doing it for any other reason than to say, "I didn't have sex for a year." There is nothing wrong with this celibacy. It has become a goal, especially because I am being told it is silly and that I need laid.
I do not need laid. I have been happy, honest-to-goodness happy, for the past two weeks. So I do not understand why they think I need laid. Was I any happier when I was receiving sex? Perhaps. Who wouldn't be happier? But I do not need sex to be happy. And I understand that now. I have my family, my friends, my job, and my witchcraft. I am happy with what I have in my lift at the moment.
Do I need sex? No. Do I need a boyfriend or girlfriend to make me happy? No. Does anyone ever honestly need a boyfriend or girlfriend to make themselves happy? No. But alas, we are humans, and we seek companionship. There is no harm in this at all. This does not change anything. I do not want sex. I want companionship, romance, bonding, a connection with someone on a spiritual level, not meaningless sweaty physical interaction. Been there, done that, moving on.
I know as a pagan/wiccan that sex is sacred. It isn't viewed as dirty and forbidden like some other religions. But that doesn't mean that every hour of every day of every week has to be filled with the act. Some simply have sex out of boredom. They go out to the bar and plan to have sex that night. With any guy/girl they bump shoulders with. How in the world is that respectful to yourself as a human being?
If you has asked me about any of this last year, my response would have been totally different. But because of my life experiences, some things about me have changed. For better or worse, who knows. All that I know is that I am happy with what I have.